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Spreading the happy.

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Sometimes I think it’s so easy to forget to “spread the happy.”

And it’s even easier to forget that sometimes we *d0* “spread the happy” without even realizing it.

…chatting with a barre n9ne client and they ask ‘so, how long have you been doing the 60-day challenge?’ and they ask for tips, and how to get ‘there’ to where *you* are.

(silently inspiring, simply leading by example)

…hearing from a friend that they’ve just broken up with their boyfriend of five years and though she is obviously very sad, “seeing how happy you are, after going through what you did, gives me confidence and faith that I will too.”

(paying it forward to someone else means incredibly much to me, because there are so many that inspired *me* when I most needed it, just seeing *their* happiness overflow in their ‘new normal.’)

…reaching out, with an email, a call, a text. To say hello. To ask ‘how are you?’ or ‘I miss you, how have you been?’

(handing a morsel of ‘happy’ at an unexpected moment)

All of these things…are ways we ‘spread the happy’ without even knowing it. Our experiences, our pasts, our challenges, our evolutions, our faith, our habits, our advice, our lives…can so much inspire and boost up one’s spirit ever so gently. The power of happy, and paying it forward is something that has become one of my own biggest joys. I love to ‘spread the happy’ because it not only makes *them* happy, it makes *me* happy too. And it’s just something I’ve been thinking about more and more lately. Perhaps it is because I am feeling so much happy around me, I just want it to spread and increase and motivate….for others.

So next time you brush off a compliment, an action, advice, a random email from a friend. Don’t. Pay it forward. 

Spread the happy.

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Author: Jolene

I'm 33. I’m divorced (almost four years later…it no longer defines me, but I hold it proudly as a sign of strength, determination and new beginnings). I’m a runner. A barre (n9ne) instructor/geek/devotee. A sister. A lover (to M…a man I met at just the right time in my journey and is truly the man handpicked for me, the man I’m meant to be with…forever). Join me on my journey, as it unfolds, sharing my thoughts on all things life, from running (a half marathon dabbler and ‘never say never’ attitude towards races), to my experience as an instructor at barre n9ne (my passion and addiction!) and healthy and fit lifestyle of choice, to choosing happiness and keeping perspective on life. This is also my haven to (sometimes) share my experiences in love, and where that journey takes us, 2+ years strong…and anything else that inspires me to push, sweat, and smile.

27 thoughts on “Spreading the happy.

  1. people notice more than we think. Spreading the good allows us to overcome the bad. AMEN!

  2. Such an important reminder. I definitely believe in reaching out to people because you never know when that simple email or text message can make someone’s day. It’s just about being kind and treating others with respect, that same respect and thoughtfulness you would appreciate too.

    • It makes my day when I hear from someone or get a random compliment or whatever, so I try to do the same for others because that makes me happy too!

  3. Such a simple truth sis…and something I think we can ALL do a better job of in terms of paying it forward, like truly paying that happiness forward through random acts of kindness, quick little compliments or words of advice to a friend, etc. I love the concept of spreading happy!

  4. So so true. It’s not like we have to go out and make some grand gesture to show someone that we’re thinking of them or to inspire people. It is the small gestures. It always amazes me how a text or email can brighten someone’s day (or my own).

  5. I agree! Don’t keep it to yourself…don’t be bitter…don’t be mean. Spread the happy! What a good motto to remember.

  6. This is so sweet. I think of this whenever I’m out running or riding bikes. I always smile and say Hi! or Good Morning! to people I pass hoping that they remember the happy girl they passed during their walk/run/bike, whatever it may be.

  7. This is beautiful. I couldn’t agree more! I especially like what you said about your friend going through the breakup. You are such a role model and inspiration Jo :)

  8. Pay it forward! Just this week a stranger bought my coffee bc he said someone had just done it for him. What a mood brightener.

    Little things add up – love this post!

  9. So true and I think positivity and moving forward is so encouraging to others. Your journey and how you met M gives me a lot of hope that after a failed engagement, several shitty relationships that it will all work out in the end.

  10. You are so cute! I love this. :) You are definitely a happy spreader for sure…and a great influence on so many people!

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  12. This is such a beautiful post, friend. I’m sorry it took a couple of days to comment. This post speaks words of who you are and why I love you as a friend, woman…human being in general. Spreading the happy…so important, so underestimated, so rare. But you know what I’ve noticed? I see it happening more and more around me, and I love it.

  13. Good reminders, you are a very positive person and really are an example to look to for victory in many facets of your life!

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